I am a 29-year-old single mum of two little children. My 5-year-old son was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. I am the only one in my family who has been educated in his maintenance, so I understand the importance of a nutritious diet, proper insulin dose, checking his blood sugar, etc., and that unless his diabetes is correctly handled, it could create serious health problems – even passing.
I’ve explained these things to my mom and tried to train her many times, yet she continues to do things she should not be doing. She stops by my house virtually every night with “treats” like candies, ice cream, chocolate bars, doughnuts, etc.. When I get upset about it, she will casually reply, “Oh, anything. If you dose him to your carbs in it, he’s fine,” which isn’t the case. Yes, he can have a treat now and then, but overall, he wants to stay away from that stuff.
It is extremely frustrating that she won’t hear me and proceeds to disrespect my wishes. I really don’t know what else to do. We have fought repeatedly within this, and she keeps telling me I am “overreacting.” I am terrified my child will have irreversible harm due to this. How can I get her to stop and listen to me?
Frustrated in Wisconsin
You’ve allowed your son’s medical condition to develop into a power struggle between you and your mom. Schedule an appointment with your son’s pediatrician so that your mom can have the facts of life explained to her. If this doesn’t help her to accept reality, then understand that she can not be reliable. Don’t let her to drop by with goodies, and supervise any contact he has with her. It is your job to secure your little boy, even from your obtuse mother, if needed.
I am having a difficult time regarding my older daughter. 1 reason is that if she was 18, I co-signed a $4,000 loan for college. She’s now turning 29 and still hasn’t paid back the loan. I speak to her about it frequently and she says, “I will look after it,” but she never does.
I am a single mother and still raising a daughter. I am trying to get a place of our own, but I am encountering credit problems due to the loan. I really don’t know what to do. She has my two grandsons, and if I take her to court, I will never see these again. Please allow me to.
Hurt Mom in Georgia
Dear Hurt Mom:
In case you’ve explained to your older daughter which you will need the money today, and have written evidence that the loan was made with the promise that it would be repaid, another step should be to talk to an lawyer. And if your kid retaliates by depriving her children of the grandma, so be it. You and your younger daughter is going to have a better chance of getting a roof of your own over your thoughts.
Dear AbbyP.O. Box 69440Los Angeles, CA 90069Andrews McMeel Syndication